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Hindus, and i believe many other religions, believe in the concept of Karma. whatever you do, it comes back to you. and Hindus believe in reincarnation too. sometimes, it’s so twisted that you may say that bad things are happening to you because you must have done something bad in one of your incarnations. and that the bad things that happen to you are happening to wipe off the sin you committed in your past incarnations. i dont know if there were past incarnations of me. and i dont know if i should believe the astrologer who says that this is my last incarnation. all i know is that i have this lifetime. and i believe that whatever happens to me in this lifetime happens to grow me into a better person. but getting brutally raped and violated or tortured by another human just because im not one of them is something i could never accept as punishment to a past sin. even if i was a murderer in my last lifetime, i should be punished for it back then, and not in some other lifetime. that theory could merely be a rouse by the oldies to warn ppl from doing bad (since bad things follow you for generations, or so it seems). i dont see how punishing someone for a sin committed in past lifetime works out to be fair. does it make any sense that someone would say that you deserve to be tortured because you murdered someone in a lifetime he has no memory of? that seems more vengeful than anything else. i guess what im trying to say is that i cant see any divine reason that would justify someone being tortured. being raised a Hindu, i dont know if im wrong to say what i just did. but like everyone else, we have perspectives and questions abt things that sometimes dont add up.
perhaps, God is one who is a figure of hope in situations like that. a focal point that maybe there will be a way out some day.
i call myself a believer. but if i were that Jewish prisoner, i would have said the same thing.
all the cruel things ppl do to ppl, ppl do to animals.. yet so many more unreported cases. war crimes, sexual bullies, torture, etc. as much as i would like to think that the world is a good place, maybe it is filled with more psychos that i thought.
feels like this has been bothering me quite a bit. the gang rape on a medical student in Delhi has left me utterly disgusted at the rapists, and more so, at the bystanders who had not an ounce of humanity in them to cover the girl who was thrown out of the bus half naked.
i am not living in India and perhaps there are subtle rules that girls are supposed to observe in public – but, my first reaction if i see a girl lying naked on the ground (or a guy for that matter) is to cover the person with something. anything, whatever. all the girls in India who wear a punjabi suit would have had a shawl on them. no girl had the decency to use that to cover her. seriously? lost for words, and still disgusted, and i think the world is really unfair and can be really screwed up at times. i am not taking this well. i really am not.
the girl is recovering and stable and i more so than anything else want to pray for God to donate some brains and heart to the public, to not treat her as though she deserved to be raped, to not treat her like she must have lured the boys in, to not treat her like she is a slut, and to not look at her with eyes that say since she’s got raped by 6 boys, maybe she wont mind if i touch”.
i am not happy abt this at all. we are not here to hurt ppl. we are here to bring joy to others. no one deserves such a story in their life. not even a prostitute. you convict the rapists, what abt the bystanders who did nothing?
ive been flashed at before. been molested twice before. almost had a older English man kiss me at a bar before. well, for the first time, adding to this list, ive just been courteously asked by an older man if i would be interested to have sex with him.
he seemed all diplomatic, chatting me up by the side of the road, about where i was from and what i was doing in tsv. he offered to give me a lift to whereever i needed to in his flashy Mercedes Benz. i declined. it was hot and we were standing under the sun and so he asked if i would like to sit in his car for a few minutes while we chat. i told him i had to rush home to work on my reports. and then he said he’d be honest and said he was “looking for some female company”. in all naivety, i still thought i should give this man the benefit of a doubt. maybe he just wanted to chat. i waited for him to finish his speech and realised what he was getting at. with each sentence, the closer his hand gestures came to my body. the more uncomfortable i became. and each time i responded, i took the opportunity to step back a little. why was i still entertaining him? dont even ask. after what seemed like 2 minutes of casual conversation and 3 minutes of me declining his offers, he continued to try his luck.
“so you are not interested in any fashion”
“how about we just sit in the car and chat for 10 min”
“yea, i really should get back, not too free. sorry”
“well, its not easy for me to ask a lady this question, but i just thought that instead of going to the thai massage palour nearby, because that would be a one-way thing, that if you might be interested in something”
“well, how about i take you to lunch or dinner? or do you have a boyfriend?”
“yea actually, i do”
“well, then i’ll pay for a dinner for the both of you, somewhere nice”
“thats alright. its not necessary. i have to go anyway.”
i start to walk away, he starts to walk away.
“i hope you dont think im a desperate old man. its not my intention to make you feel uncomfortable.”
“thats alright. im sure you have your needs”
“so you are not interested? how about i give you something for… you know, in exchange for….”
“ha… yea.. sorry. no”
“alright. doesnt hurt to try.”
“well i hope you get on fine”
“well, at this age, you dont get on fine. you just get on. i was hoping for an explosion, but this turned out just flat”
i trailed off ending the conversation.
walked off almost faulting myself for engaging in the conversation just because i didnt want him feeling bad. but, money for sex? ha… thats a new low for me. ass!
this came after a morning of heaviness. heaviness that even a shift at reef HQ couldnt eradicate. and reef HQ always brought a smile to my face. as hard as this morning was, i didnt want to judge this man whose concepts were totally incompetent with my moralities.
he appeared like a decent man. im sure he probably is. perhaps men just have their needs. and maybe at that age when they grow desperate, they arent looking for love. (maybe they are, but dont expect it to happen to them. so the next best thing is to find other ways to experience it). might seem pervertic. but, how different is this urge from wanting to have a few drinks on a bad day? i really shouldnt judge.
im not all that innocent, so perhaps i’m not the right person to talk abt chastity. but, while im not as traditional as some might like me to be, im also not as flippant as the majority of society is in this day and age. how could sex mean anything less than love? a girl’s not a sex toy. and sex without genuine love means nothing more than authority without rapport with a delinquent. its meaningless. and with ppl telling me, “marriage doesnt mean anything”, i mean…. this is not the society i know. this is not the morality i believe in. it seems like i belong to an earlier era – where ppl in a relationship actually intend for it to last forever.
in all purity, treat a lady as you would the petals of a flower. without intentions of lust or filth. believe in a man as you would the roots of an old oak tree. the tenderness and strength that love shows – it must be special. it must mean something. one doesnt just go up to a girl (and i wasnt trashily dressed AT ALL), and ask if she’d sleep with him because he needs some ‘explosion’. or to pose in a bikini cos his friend wants to send postcards to his friend.
this might not seem like a big deal to some others. and honestly, im not sitting down crying over this either. its just bugging me a little. and im sure it’ll pass. just got me thinking abt how sex and all associated pleasures doesnt mean anything to many ppl in the world. afterall, we are animals, technically, we are only here to procreate. emotions are just in the way. like i am, breaking the procreational rules of the animal kingdom.
many many months have passed since the campaign went public. on Sunday, Ric O’ Barry touched down at Changi Airport to spend a few days here explaining the need for the campaign and hoping that RWS will at least have a chat with him. on tuesday, ACRES arranged for a dialogue session with him. well, the truth is, as excited as i was, having this wonderful once in a lifetime opportunity to meet this man, i knew we were gathering for a very sad reason. and just like what was mentioned during the Biodiversity Symposium, the target audience we would have loved to see wasnt there. members of the public who dont know what this issue is all about should have turned up. fans of RWS who wonder why some of us are petitioning for the release of the 25 miserable dolphins should have turned up. but yet again, it was those who didnt need convincing who turned up.
many of us have been writing to RWS for replies addressing the concerns we have over the plight of the remaining dolphins. Ric wrote a letter too. not one, not two. and yet, RWS claims they never received the letters. ACRES wrote in to RWS asking for a mtg. RWS declined a mtg with him, saying it felt no need for a debate. well, we know they have something to hide because they refuse to alleviate our concerns by answering the questions.we know they have something to hide.
ACRES has evidence of how dolphin training is happening in the tiny enclosure before it is brought to RWS in 2012. this is what RWS needs to do to train the dolphins before they appear in front of the millions of inhumane audiences who smile at them being tortured.
dolphins are social creatures. once again, i say, they NEED vast oceans to swim the distances and at that speeds. they do flips and turns and blow bubbles and play with things, but NOT at the instruction of the trainers who refuse to feed them unless they do the tricks. they are deprived of the sounds/currents/interaction they get in the wild. “the primary sense of dolphins is sounds. putting them in a concrete box is a sensory deprivation” they said there will be no dolphin shows, but they said there will be exercise sessions for dolphins which the visitors to RWS can see. why twist words when the ultimate objective is still to get ppl to pay money to watch dolphins? so tell me which part of dolphins shows does not reek of animal cruelty? “Why would they go forward with such a bad idea that is so obviously wrong?”
Even CNN covered the news.
yet RWS does not want to reply to the concerns raised. why hide if they are sure that their cause of captive dolphins is for education and conservation is ethical? “Real education is about knowing all the reasons and making an educated decision” so here’s pleading RWS to have a discussion, learn the concerns and consequences and make the right ethical decision.
ppl did ask whether dolphins stand a better chance living longer when kept captive. well, the reply was that if you were to be stuck in a room (you cant leave, obviously) with food delivered to you everyday. you would survive. there’s no question about that. surviving is not an issue. but surely you’d want to go out for a walk someday. talk to friends perhaps. enjoy the wind. so, “dolphins may survive in captivity. but its not about the quantity of life.. its the quality of life that matters.”
and for those who think that they might never have the opportunity to see dolphins upclose. well, there are ALOT of animals you might not get to see upclose he said. does it mean that everytime you want to see an animal from the wild, you got to capture it and bring it down and cage it up and exhibit it? ppl got to learn to curb their demands. there has to be a balance between interest and what can be achieved. a positive example of how wild animals can be enjoyed is whale watching. it seems that more money has been made from whale watching tours than killing whales through all the years of history.
dolphins are one of the most intelligent animals and they should NOT be kept captive. it is pure animal torture and is totally unethical. Ric described it as one of Nature’s Greatest Deception, that the dolphins are always appearing as though they are smiling. but in fact, they are under alot of stress. stress that could lead them to death. and 2 have already died.
RWS has already made alot of money in the first half of this year (S$500m if i remember correctly), and they made this much without having the dolphins around. and they will continue to make this much without the dolphins. they dont need the dolphins to make money. so i think now it is just a matter of who wins this fight. and we need help. staying silent does not help. if you understand the situation and realise that captive dolphins is pure animal torture, then speak up.
1) write to RWS (politely) and ask them to release the dolphins.
2) boycott RWS
3) spread the word to ppl you know, make them understand.
4) post on FB, take the photo petition, sign the petition
do something (legally of course).
MasterCard which had announced discounted prices to RWS has taken it back. and has said that it does NOT support the marine life park at RWS.
“one brick at a time” said Ric. and we hope that too. as consumers, if we refuse to pay for the ticket to the MLP, they will lose money and be forced to reverse the situation. we do have the power.
please help to support the cause. dolphins are meant to be in the wild. it makes no sense that ppl can sit at seats and clap at dolphins being tortured. please spread the world.
RWS, please let the dolphins go!
*the bold statements were said by Ric O’ Barry and Louis Ng.
the following are media coverage of the Ric O’Barry’s Visit
25 more dolphins are still being tamed and trained in the phillipines to be brought over to RWS as an attraction.
marine ppl know that captive dolphins dont do well. already 2 have died. and RWS is still not changing its decision.
its a sad plight for these marvellous creatures to be kept captive when they really should be in the wild.
please head on down to Far East Plaza and make your intention clear. if more ppl come forward and show that they care, at least it’ll make an impact.
captive dolphins are just wrong. they are just wrong.